Sunday, July 5, 2009

One Year

I can hardly believe it's almost been a year since my first post. My goal was to post pictures of people in the public eye. Couples who, like me, ignored the fact that a black woman/white man couple is one of the least likely interracial pairs to get together. I wanted to show couples that were in successful, long lasting relationships and provide positives for those contemplating one.

I have enjoyed researching and finding all the beautiful couples out there. I wanted to thank the many people and blogs that have provided me with leads. As the year has progressed it has become more difficult to find pictures and thorough information for my posts. To be honest, I don't think I'll find 52 more couples Just Like Me for the next year.

One option is to post pictures of "regular" folk, however I haven't received any photos from couples. :( The second option is to stray from couples that are BW/WM. Five more posts, I'll have 52 - and a decision will have to be made. If you have any feedback send it my way.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for your post. AS a black woman interested in a variety of men, it was encouraging to see all these successful couples. I may end up with a black man...or an indian who knows...but I am glad I won't be the only one stepping outside of my race.

PurpleNepenthe said...

You are very welcome! I dated both black and white before finding the best partner for me. I wish you every success, whomever you chose. Thank you for visiting my blog. :)

Teach06 said...

I love you blog! It's so great! I think maybe if you post or "advertise" for lack of better word in maybe some BW/WM chat groups you maybe be able to get more pople interested...

PurpleNepenthe said...

Thanks, I'm glad you like it! Thanks for the tip, too. I know this sounds weird, I'm actually not too worried about how many people visit my site. Those who make it here generally really want to be here. I haven't gotten a single negative comment or email which is wonderful (knock on wood). Some of those forums can be downright scary if you know what I mean.

I will definitely look into it and see if I can find some positive places to join and/or post. :)

Fi'ola'kemi said...

I love your site. :) It's that you're showcasing the diversity of love, and for me personally, it's nice to see couples like the ones I've been part of. :)

PurpleNepenthe said...

Thank you! :)

g. said...

I really enjoy this site. I'm still young but date a variety of men and it's encouraging to see that more men appreciate the beauty of black women than is portrayed in the media.

I think instead of focusing on quantity, stick to your black women/white men or black women/"other" theme. Maybe, in order to find more couples, post more couples like Halle and Gabriel who aren't married. For me the site is positive because it shows that we black women are considered desirable. Posting couples who aren't married would still achieve this end.

Thank you!

PurpleNepenthe said...

Thank you, g, for giving me your point of view. I have been sticking with married couples and couples with children in order to show that there is a high level of commitment in the relationship. Knowing that couples who are just dating provides encouragement for you may be just the push I need to step out of my 'commitment' box. I really appreciate your feedback!

Lay'Na said...

I'm not dating nor have I dated anyone outside my race (only because I've never been approached, I'm totally open to it), however I stumbled across your blog and I love it! I went all the way to the beginning and viewed all the post. Your blog is encouraging and endearing, don't stop and keep up the good work!

Anonymous said...

I really like your blog..it is very inspiring. I am a black woman and well I have dated both black and white men. I would like to marry a white man however I have encountered a stumbling block..I live in Europe..however it is a bit of a challenge because some of the white guys I have met are a very ignorant..its like I am good enough for a one night stand, but not a relationship...anyway totally diferent story all together..My intention of leaving a comment is to ask for your advice....I may live in a developed continent but it is quite outstanding and funny some of the things people say. I live on an island which is very very very very small and well the first thing white guys tend to presume is that I want to date somebody to get permanent residence...etc I can assure you I am not a refugee however I am quite appalled by some things I have had to hear! I went out on a date with a man who I thought was intelligent and open minded. He was a lecturer, but it seems that before he came out on a date with me he had spoken to a few friends and mentioned my race and I think they were not very supportive, which I didnt mind..But this man had known and seen me for a year and that he let other people decide his feelings for him was shocking considering he is a mature 32..I am an intelligent, well spoken woman.My blackness should not come into it or am I being too naive or perhaps living in the wrong country?..how did you overcome the dating scene without being put off by ignorant comments?

PurpleNepenthe said...

Hi!

First, I admire your openmindedness. I have dated both black and white men as well. Second, I want to state that I don't feel qualified to give advice so please take what I say as one example or one person's experience.

I am no longer dating (happily married for nearly 14 years) and when I was still dating I considered myself young. I had no experience with the dating scene at an age I would consider mature. Your first question was about your blackness. I believe it should be no more important in your dating to your date than it is to you. This particular man was not ready for a relationship with you. Your second question was about ignorant comments. I simply ignore (in the case of being called names across a parking lot) or avoid (people who can't handle being with me for what ever reason, I have no need to be around).

I wish I had better answers for you. You sound like a wonderful person with a good head on her shoulders. I consider myself lucky every day that I found the man to make me happy - no matter what his color. I wish you the same.